Your fertility isn’t just impacted by your physical health: the key to unlocking true holistic womb healing
By Alira Roselani
Did you know that everything, from your past relationships to trauma, emotional wounds and even societal conditioning can deeply affect your fertility and reproductive health? If you're struggling to get pregnant or dealing with pain, fibroids, endometriosis or bloating, it's not always necessarily just about your body —it can be about these, often unspoken about, factors that you probably have never even considered.
Our bodies are communicating with us all of the time…How often are you tuning in to listen to yours? Symptoms are our bodies way of telling us that something is awry, stuck, repressed or needs addressing.
These often unconsidered factors could be affecting your fertility:
Past Abortions
Past Miscarriages and Pregnancy Loss
Ancestral/Inherited Trauma
Past Traumatic and/or Violent Births
Religious Programming
Societal Programming
Family/Childhood Programming
Past Relationships and Sexual Partners
Repressed Emotions
Rape and/or Sexual Abuse
Imbalances in the Sacral Chakra
and more
While I’d absolutely love to do a deep dive into each and every one of these areas in this blog, unfortunately I’ll only be able to address three of these areas today. However, if you’re intrigued about how some of these areas might be affecting you and would like to work with me to address both the physical and emotional causes, please apply to work with me here where all of this is covered in my 1:1 coaching container. Alternatvely,
Abortion, Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss and fertility struggles
As a Quantum Mind-Body Therapist™ and Natural Fertility Coach, I’ve seen how abortion or miscarriage can deeply affect a woman’s fertility, often in ways that are overlooked by conventional medicine. When a pregnancy ends, whether through abortion or miscarriage, the emotional, spiritual, and energetic impacts can linger and disrupt the body’s natural flow, potentially leading to future fertility struggles.
Although sometimes shut down, hidden and repressed —abortion, miscarriage and pregnancy loss DOES cause immense emotional trauma. The loss of a pregnancy can cause intense grief, sadness, and sometimes shame. If the death of the child was the decision of the mother, there may also be deep guilt and regret too. If these emotions aren’t fully processed and healed, they can become trapped in the body, particularly in the womb area where the loss likely occurred. The womb is not just a physical organ but a powerful emotional centre too. When emotional pain is suppressed, it can block energy flow, hinder the body’s ability to heal and even disrupt hormonal balance, making it harder to conceive again.
The womb is the most powerful place to create and give birth to life, but when it's holding onto trauma, loss, or regret the energy of it can become somewhat imbalanced. This imbalance affects not only fertility but also the overall health of the reproductive system. The womb's energy can become stagnant or blocked which may prevent conception, cause irregular cycles or exacerbate existing conditions like PCOS, fibroids or endometriosis.
Abortion or miscarriage can also create soul ties—energetic cords of attachment that link the mother to the lost child. If these ties aren’t cut and released, they can act as energetic blockages preventing the body and soul of the mother from moving forward and fully embracing future pregnancies. These ties can hold the space of the womb in the past rather than allowing it to be free and open for new possibilities in the present.
Although most women will never forget their pregnancy loss no matter how it happened —majority of us probably also feel like we have to ‘move on’ and ‘get over it’ and not dwell on the past. While dwelling on the past is not necessarily helpful, hopefully you have realised by now we do have to go back to that time and fully release, heal and clear all of the pain and stuck, repressed emotions that were likely stuffed down and unknowingly stored in our womb space — that is, if we want to truly move forward in a conscious way and conceive a child in a healthy, clean and clear womb space - energetically and physically.
All of that said — although my primary focus of this topic is the energetic and emotional aspects that may be hindering conception (which are almost always unaddressed), it’s important not to forget the physical aspects of abortion or pregnancy loss that can also be causing issues while trying to conceive again. Procedures like D&C’s (Dilation and Curettage) and surgical abortion often cause scar tissue and issues like uterine perforation are a risk, which can cause problems with your menstrual cycle and ability to conceive in the future.
How a past traumatic and violent birth can block future conception
The proliferation of medicalised, traumatic and yes even violent birth is absolutely devastating to witness, and is a topic I am hugely passionate about. As a natural birth educator, 2x home birther AND a surprise twin freebirther, it is something I talk loudly about all of the time, because it's a hugely important topic and is at the root of a lot of issues that we see in the world today.
One of my favourite sayings is “Peace on earth begins at birth” — and it illustrates that there is a profound connection between the way we treat the babies in our womb, and subsequently our newborn babies, and the peace we as humans experience on this earth. How can we expect a peaceful humanity when unfortunately a high number of humans come into the world in a violent way? A violent way that has been so incredibly normalised that most people are absolutely numb and oblivious to its very presence around the world in every ‘maternity system’, all of which is built upon patriarchal principles — a system of authoritarianism and dominance.
All that aside, the medicalised, traumatic and violent births that many women experience in the modern world creates fear, tension and pain in the womb area that remains there until it is addressed and fully healed. As you can probably guess by now, this heavy, repressed energy in the womb space can affect your ability to conceive if not addressed. And as a side note, even if you are someone who does not have trouble conceiving and holding a pregnancy, I always recommend my clients to do thorough womb healing and clearing regardless, because these wounds, traumas and energies are passed to your babies and can cause them their own issues in the future too.
Energetic attachments to past relationships, previous sexual partners and their affect on your fertility
Every time we engage in sexual activity, we exchange energy—both consciously and unconsciously—with our partner. This exchange always leaves an imprint. When we share an intimate connection with someone, we create energetic cords of attachment (often also called soul ties/cords, etheric ties/cords, energetic ties/cords or energy bonds). These are cords that link two people at a deep spiritual, soul level and are always formed during sexual encounters, but they can also form in any emotional and intimate relationship.
For the purpose of this topic, I’ll stick to talking about sexual cords of attachment. And as a side note, these don’t only just form with someone you are in a conscious relationship with, they can often form if someone is fond of you in a romantic or sexual way, possibly even people you don’t suspect or don’t even know (this is part of the dangers of engaging in viewing porn, posting photos or videos of yourself online and engaging in other behaviours online — but that’s a topic for another day)
When we share an intimate connection with someone, we create energetic sexual cords of attachment to them that remain until severed and can playa role in fertility struggles
Not only do we create sexual cords of attachment to every partner, sexual partner, and even love interests, but by default we also entangle ourselves in all of THEIR sexual cords to THEIR past, current and previous relationships and sexual partners too. This big, complicated web of sexual energy and cords absolutely affects our fertility negatively until we consciously and strongly cut those cords and disentangle our energy from all of it. If these cords and the energy from past relationships are left unaddressed, the energy of the womb becomes stagnant, disrupting the natural flow of life force energy required for a healthy menstrual cycle and a healthy, conscious conception.
Sexual energy is the most powerful and sacred energy on earth —If you haven’t treated sex as sacred and protected yourself and your sexual energy accordingly, then you may have some work to do in this area.
clearing and healing energetic reproductive blocks can be the key to conception success
Healing these reproductive blocks requires energetic clearing and emotional healing. Practices like energy mastery and clearing, powerful cord-cutting rituals, womb healing work, guided meditations/journeys, guided self hypnosis, quantum deletion and field recalibration (just to mention a few) can help release these wounds, attachments, repressed emotions and traumas to help restore balance back into the womb space. By consciously and intentionally clearing the emotional and energetic debris left by past partners, healing from womb trauma such as miscarriage, abortion or violent birth you can free yourself from any fertility blockages and open up space to nurture new life in a clean, clear and aligned womb. Everything you need to heal is already within you. You just have to choose it and become the version of you who commits to herself and does the work.
